Friday, June 28th, 2013 Focus: I am willing to make appreciation my primary way of being.

BeautifulAppreciation takes courage and considerable resolve. When you choose thoughts of valuing and gratitude as your primary way of being, you are saying no to blame, to resentment, to revenge, to violence in any form — from bad-mouthing others, to kicking the dog, to berating a person. You are saying no to victimhood, to martyrdom, to passing the buck, to criticism, and to demeaning yourself or others.

When you choose appreciation, you are saying yes to being your own best friend without becoming narcissistically self-centered, yes to seeing the best in others without being blind to their weaknesses, yes to perceiving the greatest possible good in all situations while being alert to what will and won’t work for you.

You are willing to stand up for yourself. You are willing to recognize and applaud what’s good about yourself, what’s good about others, and what’s good about your life.

Excerpted from the article:
Becoming an Appreciator as a Way of Life
by Noelle C. Nelson and Jeannine Lemare Calaba.

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Saturday, June 22nd, 2013 Focus: Every day I choose to “unplug” for a few minutes.

“What’s your secret?”  “It’s pretty simple, really. Every day I unplug for a few minutes,” she replied. Still confused, I said, “I’m not sure I understand what you mean. Sort of like when I unplug my headset?”

“That’s it exactly,” Isabel smiled. “When you unplug your headset, you disconnect from all the noise. The voices, the static — everything disappears. All you hear is peaceful silence. The same thing happens with our minds. They are filled with constantly whirling thoughts and feelings and endless chatter. I discovered that when I unplugged mentally, it all stopped. All I heard was silence. I felt calm and at peace.

“Here is the best part,” she whispered. “I have the power to go to that quiet place any time I want. I can do it anywhere. Sometimes I unplug mentally as I’m waiting in line at the grocery store. When the weather is nice, I go outside and take a few minutes to sit quietly and unplug.” She laughed, “I even unplugged the other day as I sat in my car as it was going through the car wash! So, you wanted to know my secret. Now you have it.”

Excerpted from the article:
How To Unplug from the “Eleventh Problem”
by Barbara Burke.

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Saturday, June 15th, 2013 Focus: I choose to try new routines each day and embrace new possibilities.

As they grow older, many people constrict their boundaries; they often seek what is comfortable, familiar, and safe. Life becomes a matter of focusing on the petty rather than on the great. You have seen those people who are so focused on what is bad and wrong with the world they become fearful of the new and no longer experience joy. They have stopped embracing all the potential that lies within them.

As you wake up and start your day, you need not think of the past and remember mistakes; instead, focus upon the future and what you will create. Try out new routines each day. Doing new things is invigorating to the physical body. Try bringing this same alertness to whatever you normally do to experience familiar activities in new ways.

It can be easy to open up and embrace the new if you picture it as easy. Keep a picture in your mind that the future is positive and that it will be better than anything you have ever known. As you grow and evolve, what you create will be even more joyous than what you have now.

Excerpted from the article:
Embracing A New You Every Day
by Sanaya Roman.

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Friday, June 14th, 2013 Focus: I am willing to compromise while still maintaining integrity with myself.

It is important to know what you need in a relationship. Is the person able to give you those things, meet your needs? Is he able and willing to go to the places you need him to go to? If not, you’re headed for a heartbreak or drama or both.

Are you willing to compromise, take what you can get, and still maintain integrity with yourself? Filling a role for another person that is not the truth of you betrays who you are, your authentic self, and creates a wound in the child of you. The wound that is created takes significant work to mend.

Your child self feels you have abandoned her needs, put her back in a bag, and sent the message that it is not acceptable for her to be out in the world. The trust the two of you had will be ruined, and that is difficult to repair. It can be mended over time, when she sees that you will fight for her right and need to be alive and have a life with you. This is one of the basic, most necessary aspects to healing old wounds. Apologize, negotiate, and hear her voice, listen to her needs and wants. Trust can be mended.

Excerpted from the article:
Choosing Another Way: Intimacy With Yourself First
by Julie McIntyre.

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Thursday, June 13th, 2013 Focus: I invite my Essential Self to come into my consciousness.

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Watch for synchronicity to show up in your life. Notice everything with a heightened awareness. The signals will come, because it is the very heart’s desire of the Essential Self to communicate with you.

When you ask it to communicate more clearly, it will — one way or the other. Expect the unexpected, and an­ticipate the new!

Excerpted from the article:
How To Connect with Your Inner Guide & Essential Self
by Barbara Marx Hubbard.

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Wednesday, June 12th, 2013 Focus: Day by day, I am more and more aware of what I am doing, thinking, and intending.

You cannot change what you are unaware of. This truth is nowhere more important than in the world of self-improvement. We need to be more aware of what we are doing, what we are thinking, and what we are intending to accomplish…

We need to become an observer of our thoughts and actions, like an instructor watching a student performing a task. The instructor is not judgmental or emotional. The teacher observes the student’s actions, and when the student does something that is moving in the wrong direction, the instructor gently brings it to the student’s attention and pulls the student back onto the proper path.

A good instructor does not get emotional in response to the student moving off the path. That kind of negative emotion comes from expectations, and that is not the perspective we want to have if we are to be our own instructor. Expectations are tied to a result or product, to the thought that “things should be this way right now, and until then I won’t be happy.” When you experience these kinds of emotions, they are indicators that you’ve fallen out of the process, or out of the present moment.

Excerpted from the article:
Habits Are Learned: How to Choose Them Wisely
by Thomas M. Sterner.

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Saturday, June 8th, 2013 Focus: I choose to develop patience — patience is the antidote to anger.

In our tradition, anger is considered the most negative emotion you can have. The way to deal with this emotion is to develop patience. Patience is the antidote to anger.

It works in this way: If somebody hurts you, then you would reflect upon that person’s situation — how that sentient being is suffering with the burden of all the hatred he or she is carrying. This burden of anger-turned-hatred has brought illness.

Instead of reflecting on yourself, you reflect on the suffering of this human being, which brings about compassion.

Excerpted from the article:
Transforming Lives: Dealing With Emotions And Feelings
by Khenpo Kharthur Rinpoche.

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