The only thing we have control over is our choice to either react mindlessly or respond mindfully to “what is” in the current moment. To practice the art of uncertainty is to let go of the need to control the actions and behavior of other people, including their opinions of us.
It also means understanding that we have no control over the future, what “should or shouldn’t” happen tomorrow, but at the same time, it means developing an inner knowing that everything will be all right.
Sometimes we avoid seeing the truth that lies behind our fear because then we’ll have to deal with that reality. However, there is something very empowering about turning and facing our fear and shedding new light on it. Once exposed to the light, the things we fear seem to lose their power to scare us.
Excerpted from: The Illusion of Control: Seeking Security
by Dennis Merritt Jones.